Tuesday, 11 October 2011

Reason, season or lifetime?

Are you a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime?

I am and have been all 3 of these types of friend. I have and have had these types of friendships too. 

It's perfectly ok to be a friend for just a season or a reason, even if the ending of these friendships can be hurtful or confusing sometimes. You always appreciate their validity and importance in your life, in time.

He is my reason for all and our season is a lifetime

Some of my most intense friendships were during my time at University. We were young and vulnerable and stepping out into the world for the first time and it was scary, we depended on each other. When Uni was over there were many tears as we said goodbye to each other and I remember the pain I felt quite vividly. Friends for life surely?  You keep in contact for awhile, sometimes months, sometimes years and then one day one of you just stops writing or phoning.  No fight, no reason, you both just stop.  I have learned that friends come and go, and your life goes on and its ok. I have made many, many new friends since my uni days — some have come and some have gone and some have remained.   If you ever wonder why this is, then I think this poem sums it up nicely?

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
— Unknown


  1. Darling Debbie, how ever many the miles or how long the timespan, I am in it for the long haul xxx

  2. So delighted as its long haul all the way for me too! So thankful to Dr Lucy for bring Mr & Mrs S to my door xxx

  3. Longhaul for me too Debs - you have touched my life in ways other friends havent!
    Love ya

    Zo xx